Never date a “broke dude” — but don’t let one with money control you, either

Pattie Ehsaei, a banker known for sharing financial tips on TikTok, has always had a personal connection with money. Growing up as an Iranian-American child of immigrants, she witnessed her father’s financial control over the family. As a young adult, she faced the tragedy of a murder-suicide involving her parents. Her book, titled “Never Date a Broke Dude: The Financial Freedom Playbook,” is a reflection of her experiences and is dedicated to her mother. It advises readers to seek financial independence and avoid partners who don’t contribute financially.

However, Ehsaei’s advice to avoid dating broke individuals may limit dating options for some. Michelle Obama even pointed out that marrying someone financially unstable worked for her. The book also highlights various characters emphasizing the importance of financial freedom for women, whether single or in a relationship.

One inspiring story is that of Evelyn, a 95-year-old grandmother who managed to save $1.4 million by being frugal. Her simple lifestyle choices had a lasting impact on Ehsaei, prompting her to reconsider her own spending habits. Ehsaei emphasizes that investing doesn’t require large sums of money and suggests starting with small monthly contributions.

For those struggling to find extra money to invest, Ehsaei recommends taking on a side hustle or temporary job to save even a small amount regularly. Her financial advice, shaped by years of experience and shared on TikTok, advocates for consistent saving and investing for the future. Ehsaei’s message is clear: anyone can save for the future by starting small and being consistent with their financial goals.